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Friday, April 30, 2010
Words for the Soul
Nothing can come easily to you if you do not want it bad enough. Time is always a factor so make each and every minute count. It is so much more in you that drives you to the dreams you want. So don't let anything or anyone stop you. Make your hard work stand out and make it count for not just something, but everything.
Thursday, April 29, 2010
WBM Features: TrustBeatz
Regardless of the age, gender, background or upbringing; the mission is still the same-- Success. And to 21 year old, aspiring musicproducer/music engineer, TrustBeatz, success is just what he will get. The mindset is there and the talent is definitely undeniable. See the world through New York's own, TrustBeatz and get a closer look at how he holds it down.
Who is Trust Beatz?
TB: I go by Trust Beatz, my producer name. I am 21-year-old Ecuadorian cat from Queens, NYC who loves to make music. Right now I attend La Guardia Community College then going off to Institute of Audio Research to get a degree and certificate as a Music Engineer. I really like watching videos on interesting topics on Youtube such as science experiments and incredible feats.
How long have you been involved with music?
TB: I have been producing for about 7-8 years now. I would say about 3/4 of my career so far, I use to sample a lot because I looked up to Kanye West, but 2 years ago I decided to start making original compositions using a MIDI controller called Axiom 49. I use to play in the percussion ensemble back in high school for 2-3 years but I backed out of it cause I lost interest as a percussionist. But ironically, I still loved making music. I started from Hip-Hop and then shifted to R&B mixed with a whole bunch of genres. I love the feeling of making a hot track and knowing that I made it without any use of samples. You should see me when I make my tracks. My videos don’t portray it but I get mad hyped, smiling, and just hooting all over my room. It’s a beautiful feeling to make music and letting other people hear it and them loving it!
What does it mean to be a producer in 2010?
TB: Being a producer in 2010 now a days mean you got to bring the heat. Music technology is RIDICULOUS now in the game. So many new ways to get all these programs and plugins and equipment that was never experienced from the older music industry where they had to pay millions to get a setup. Sadly, music now a days is super commercial and artificial and lacks of musicianship. With all this technology, producers should be able to do things on their mix/production that the Analog age musicians wish they could’ve done.
Pro Tools or Logic?
TB: Neither. When fans/producers/musicians ask me what I use, they are always surprised when I tell them I use FL Studio 9. I started producing with Fruityloops 3. You’d be surprised the power FL Studio has. Like what an engineer said at a seminar I attended one day in Harlem, “It’s not about the wand, but it’s about the magician behind the wand that matter.”
How important is innovation to you?
TB: I believe innovation is extremely important, especially in this ever-changing world we live in. Technology that is top of the line today can become obsolete tomorrow. We need to embrace what we have and use it to OUR advantage and not let the technology brain wash us to thinking we don’t have to put in as much work as before. We have to put in the same work, BELIEVE IT, but in a different matter.
What does success mean to you?
TB: Success. Success to me means being happy. If I am happy with what I do and what I did, then I am successful. Being successful isn’t about having the most money or the biggest company.
What inspires and motivates you?
TB: Anything inspires me really. Videos on Youtube of producers making beats to a good song on the radio to a piece of paper on the floor that flies away with the wind. Anything and everything around us can be inspirational. It’s all about how you perceive things.
What's in your iPod?
TB: I just restored my iPod recently so I lost all my music but I usually have my own tracks that I produced along with references the singers I work with send me. I had a lot of Ryan Leslie on my iPod since he is one of my favorite producers. I listen to a lot of underground hip-hop like Little Brother, Murs, 9th Wonder, Exile, etc. I like listening to rap songs that tell a story. You know R&B is a must have on MY iPod so I basically have anything and everything of R&B on my iPod. I also have other artists’ or producers’ mixtapes/albums to see what other people are doing and learning from them.
Who would you like to collaborate with?
TB: Aw man. That is a tough question. I wish I could collab with a bunch of people. I always wanted to collab with Ciara and Keri Hilson. Both talented female singers and I know I could make something special for them.
Current projects?
TB: Right now I am working with my boy Yung Stutz, a singer/rapper/songwriter from Flushing, Queens trying to get reference tracks done and posting them up on the web. I am currently not working on a whole big project but I am dying to!
Where do you see yourself 5 years from now?
TB: I see myself 100 times better of a producer that I already am now. I see myself working with a team of singers/songwriters/producers and making GOOD music for the people because without the fans, there wouldn’t be any music.
What type of impact would you like to leave with your music?
TB: The big question of the century: Radio music or music in general needs to be healed and cleansed from so much artificial music that has been circulating for the past several years. Yes, I understand music has to evolve but there is a lot of nonsense music out there. My goal ultimately is to change the music industry as a whole and bring in good music to the public and as well influence other artists/producers to do the same.
Any advice for those looking to pursue their goals and dreams?
TB: Follow your dream, even if it seems impossible or far-fetched. Don’t care about what your parents say, your friends, co-workers, or classmates. Just do what you KNOW is right for YOU. Do music only if you are passionate about music, not if your main goal is to make money to be “pimpin” or “ballin”. And to aspiring producers, brothers and sisters: Study your craft. Don’t just MAKE beats. Study your favorite music or the music you produce. Study the professionals in your field and learn as much as you can. Trust me, there is an unlimited supply of information to learn as a producer/musician.
For More On TrustBeatz:
www.youtube.com/beatz4life1
www.soundcloud.com/user555996
www.twitter.com/trustbeatz
WBM Top 10
1. Usher - Raymond vs. Raymond (SAME)
2. Monica - Still Standing (SAME)
3. Ludacris - Battle Of The Sexes (UP1)
4. Sade - Solider Of Love (DOWN1)
5. Marvin Sapp - Here I Am (UP1)
6. Erykah Badu - New Amerykah Part2 (DOWN1)
7. Rihanna - Rated R (SAME)
8. Alicia Keys - Element Of Freedom (UP2)
9. Lil Wayne - Rebirth (DOWN1)
10. Trey Songz - Ready (DOWN1)
compiled by national album sales and billboard charts
WBM Features: CASE
Case: I'm working on a new album that should be released later this year! And my goals have not changed. Just want to continue doing what I love doing and thats singing. So catch me in your city.
WBM Music Video: I'm Beaming (Lupe Fiasco)
If inspiration had an anthem, it would be this song. New release folks, "I'm Beaming," the official music video from Atlantic Records Hip Hop Artist, Lupe Fiasco. Recognize the potential that lies within. Be Lazers, Not Losers.
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Wednesday, April 28, 2010
WBM Inspiration: Desire
When honed, the desire to win is quite amazing. Check out this clip. An incredible feat to say the least.
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WBM Music Video: The Game (Shake)
THE GAME is back with a new video called "SHAKE," co-starring Stacey Dash. Check it out and let us know what you think.
The R.E.D. Album Coming Soon.
WBM Music Video: B.O.B f T.I & Playboy Tre (Bet I Bust)
Let us know what you think.
WBM Music: Comander (Kelly Roland)
Looks like the Spring is heating up a little with this new release from Kelly Roland, "Commander." With this her new single, Kelly is sure to make you nod, dance and definitely pop it on the dance floor, lounge or wherever you bust a move. Check it out. Download Here
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WBM Features: SCOOPVISION
It's not fresh unless it's from Scoop The MC. Here's the latest episode from ScoopVision. Episode 21, "Free Your Mind."
WBM Certified.
http://www.ScoopTheMC.com
WBM Inspiration: Backflip Dunk
In an recent NBA Playoff Game, Mascot performs a backflip dunk. Wowzers.
Don't let ever let any thing hold you back. Let go and be free.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
WBM Cares: Make Prote-J Central Florida's Next Hot Artist
Recent WBM Feature and stellar Hip Hop artist, Prote-J is at it again! Making quite the buzz for himself both here in the states and abroad, he needs our help with votes. A secured win would mean a cover feature and an interview in Flyer Promo Now Magazine for him.
Please Click Here To Vote For Prote-J As Central Florida's Hottest Artist
TELL HIM HE'S BAD IN BED!!??....
WBM Music Video: Tyga f/ Chris Brown (G S#*!)
WBM Music Video: M.I.A (Born Free)
Let us know what you think.
WBM Music Video: T.I. (I'm Back)
Let us know what you think.
Monday, April 26, 2010
WBM MUSIC VIDEO: Nas & Damian Marley (As We Enter)
WBM Features: The O.G. Mack (Part 2)
WBM Features...The O.G. Mack in part of two of a two part video interview highlighting his life accomplishments and perspective of the world as an entertainer.
Are You The Reason...?
http://www.whybluematters.com
Sunday, April 25, 2010
WBM Movies: The Last Airbender (Trailer 3)
Looks like it's going to be a billion dollar summer. Here's a sneak peak why. Coming to theaters July 2nd, 2010.
WBM Certified.
WBM Movies: Predators (Trailer)
Are they hunters or the hunted? Find out this summer. Coming to theaters, July 9th, 2010.
WBM Certified.
WBM News: (Usain) Bolt Strikes Penn Relays
Over the weekend, lightning struck and in a major way at the Penn Relays resulting in Team Jamaica Gold anchored by 23 year world record holder Usain Bolt, capturing gold for early season bragging rights. Check out this vid in expectation of 4x100 USA vs. The World Relay Race and the reaction of the crowd before, during and afterward. Amazing.
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WBM Cares: Vote For Josie La Corte (Young Money Apprentice)
Part of the WBM fam and also aspiring graphic designer, clothing designer and model Josie La Corte is competing in the Young Money apprentice contest. Ending on April 30th, 2010, Josie needs our help.
When asked about herself and her perspective art this is what she had to say:
"Art if not just a definition to me, it defines me. I am Josie La Corte & in the essence, I believe I should Be the Young Money Apprentice Winner because I have an incredible strive for the top. I strive for not only my goals, but to reach out and aid in the making of others. My aspirations huge, between getting accepted to the University of OCAD for graphic design and pursuing my dream, with beginning the process of creating my own clothing line, and juggling my love for modeling, I am convinced that with my attitude anything can be possible. The money will not only let me jump start my life, but it makes me one step closer to reaching yours. “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."
Let's push her all the way to the top.
Vote for her today, we have until April 30th.
http://hustlegrl.com/blog/2010/04/vote-now-young-money-apprenticeship-contest/
WBM Features: The O.G. Mack (Part One)
WBM Features...The O.G. Mack in part of one of a two part video interview highlighting his life accomplishments and perspective of the world as an entertainer.
Are You The Reason...?
http://www.whybluematters.com
Saturday, April 24, 2010
Words For The Soul
Sometimes there are people there to help set up them lights so you can have a stage performance. When you get help its wise to take the chance on it. When you least expect it, it may actually be the push you needed to do something you may be meant for. I've always wanted to work with children with disorders. I met a wonderful friend that helped put up the light for me to step into it. Well because of that push I'm now working with children and adults with disorders. It just goes to show with your own ambition and the belief in you from others great things can happen. Be Blessed.
What's the reason you do what it is you do?
Signed: Mz. in Love with Me.
Friday, April 23, 2010
WBM Movies: Sex In The City 2 (Extended Trailer)
Here's the extended version of the anticipated release Sex In The City 2. This flick should definitely rule the box office the weekend of May 27th-- just on time for the Memorial Day Holiday.
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WBM Inspiration: Shine Bright
Above is one of the most recent photos taken of the sun. You too can shine this bright. Belief in yourself and your abiility will not prohibit you from anything. That's Why Blue Matters. Belief is the reason and the catalyst fueling your purpose. Live life on purpose and everything else will fall into place.
Be inspired. Be proactive. Be Why Blue Matters.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
WBM: Top 20 ARTIST SPOTLIGHT
and then check out Waka Flocka Flame perform live at this years B.E.T's "Spring Bling"
WBM Top 10
1. Usher - Raymond vs. Raymond (SAME)
2. Monica - Still Standing (SAME)
3. Sade - Solider of Love (UP3)
4. Ludacris - Battle of the Sexes (SAME)
5. Erykah Badu - New Amerykah Part 2 (DOWN2)
6. Marvin Sapp - Here I Am (DOWN1)
7. Rihanna - Rated R (SAME)
8. Lil Wayne - Rebirth (SAME)
9. Trey Songz - Ready (SAME)
10. Alicia Keys - Element of Freedom (SAME)
compiled by national album sales and billboard charts
Head of the Class
I've recently had the opportunity to not only interview, but get to know a man by the name Douglas George Jr. The entertainment world has learned to become familiar with him as Skew Beezy. Being a father of five, hes doing what he loves to do what he want to do. however not having a father figure in his life to guide him in the directions he felt he needed, Skew Beezy was determined to be stronger and more independent of himself. He never thought he should have to rely on others to get what he wanted or to get where he wanted to go.
Skew first found his heart for music in junior high school when his best friend at the time approached him with an offer to start a group. Realizing they had what it takes to make it to the next level was just history in the making.
In the current state that music is in Skew feels that being himself; grounded, real and open to the industry will forever change the terms Hip Hop is dead. Skew Beezy states, "today in Hip Hop you see so many clones of other rappers and being himself is what is right." Coming up around music his entire life means everything ti Skew. He believes if he didn't come up around music since he was young, "I probably wouldn't be doing music at all."
Seeing himself as a real artist that speaks about what he sees and what hes been through. If he carries any common traits from any of the greats in Hip Hop he'd like his fans to let him know. He says he "just wants to be me and stay in my own lane." When asked what message would he tell the world? Skew Beezy replied, "stay focused and determined about your dreams. Also keep God first and you can accomplish anything you set your mind to." Those are truly words from a great.
Having the privilege to interview not only a great artist but person as well was a Why Blue Matters honor.
Please be on the look out for Skew Beezy.
Mix tape series Back 2 Skew coming May 2010
Video blog series: Skew Sessions
For more on Skew Beezy:
http://skewhouserock.net
http://skewbeezy.net
http://myspace.com/starhottent
http://reverbnation.com/skewbeezy
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
WBM Events: Hunter College Annual Fashion/Talent Show
Event: Hunter College Annual Fashion & Talent Show (Spring/Summer Edition)
Date: April 30th, 2010
Location: Hunter College North/Assembly Hall
69th Street Btwn Lexington and Park Ave.
Time: 8pm
Next week Friday, April 30th, 2010, it's going down. Fashion events don't get any better than this. Be prepared to see the latest fashions from some of New York's most amazing designers and models. Many will be in attendance. Hope to see you there.
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WBM Interviews Mike Epps
Why Blue Matters interviews actor and comedian Mike Epps from the red carpet the night of his Mike Epps Comedy Show at Club Nokia in LA.
WBM Music Video: Chris Brown f/ Tyga "Holla At Me"
let us know what you think?
WBM Music Video: CIARA f/LUDACRIS (Ride)
WBM MUSIC VIDEO: Kelis (Acapella)
WBM MUSIC NEWS
Does the name Stefani Germanotta ring a bell? It probably wont, people think Lady Gaga is a new artist, but her first time around in the music business she simply went by Stefani.
LADY GAGA's performance at the MTV MUSIC AWARDS
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
WBM Music Video: Do My Ladies Run This Party (Cupid)
This just in-- the official video for Cupid's new single Do My Ladies Run This Party released today. Ladies & Gents, this joint is real serious and guaranteed to make you move. Definitely vibe with Cupid on this one and see why the ladies run the party.
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Through the Photographers Lens
In this week’s post I thought I would address some questions of my own. Do people know or even understand the differences between Hip-hop and Rap? Do People understand the difference between the culture and art form versus, as many rappers call it “the Hustle?”
As I sat in my study reviewing notes from past interviews with Artists within the hip-hop community, I began to notice subtle differences in the answers to my questions, the passion that drives the writing and even the level of respect in the language used to express thought. I’d come to the conclusion that there are some subtle differences that when looked at as a whole they form a sharp separating line between the two factions of the art form. Differences that are not unlike the differences between “Guy’s” and “Men” or the differences between “Girl’s” and “Women”. One you have respect for and honor in the things you do to recognize each for what they are and one you have to just deal with.
In my conversations with Hip-Hop artists, the conversations are very deep and detailed, delving into politics and the development of the culture. Many want to build whole Hip-Hop communities that are completely self –sufficient and rely strictly on the culture and the craftsmanship of its members to support itself and each other through craft. Purchasing land and building homes and businesses that ultimately help further the cause of the culture. Innovation in mind and thinking to bring about growth and cultural maturity to make Hip-Hop a viable and recognizable nation. Humility, strength, honor (of sorts) and even a belief in one uncreated creator with many different names only separated by language and locality but unified by the common cause. Further the Hip-Hop nation and culture!
In my conversations with some of the rappers I have interviewed the answers because very limited and dare I say repetitive. Diamonds, clothes, cars, sociopathic behavioral patterns, elicit narcotic use and of course misogyny! Lyrical weakness in the craft is what many complain about. A total lack of content. There are many songs to choose from in fact if you are reading this you are more than likely humming the lyrics to one of those songs in your head and nodding knowingly. In a recent tweet I posted the question “If everyone is striving to be individual then what is normal”; well I found they answer in my research. Individuality in Rap music has become the new millennium” Monkey Trap!” Lots of shiny objects to capture the attention and even lure it away from the lack of truth, depth and fact that Rappers seem to be missing today. Where have all the true lyricists gone and why are they not at the forefront of this industry?
I don’t believe Hip-Hop Culture is dead at all but I do believe that it has been overshadowed but the looming, dark marketing campaign that is Rap Music.
What are your thoughts?
Rahim Baskett
Photographer
MindSoulVision Photography
Url: http://www.mindsoulvision.com/
Email: Rahimb@mindsoulvision.com
Fallen Hero
In Memory of our Fallen Hero
Keith “GURU” Elam
Rest In Peace!
7.17.1966 – 4.19.2010
Why Blue Matters would like to take the time to say a warm and sincere Rest In Peace to Keith “Guru” Elam. Hip-hop has lost a true cultural leader and visionary and indeed a pioneer. The culture will truly miss you !
Guru passed away yesterday after a yearlong battle with cancer. According to sources close to Guru, he suffered in silence and dignity always thinking of his friends, family and fans. Since the onset of illness, Guru tried to live a “normal” life as an influential musician, father, family man, and Hip-hop cultural icon. Always keeping a positive outlook and encouraging those around him, Guru continued to prove his iconic status a leader in the Hip-hop industry.
Guru’s rise to fame came in the 80’s as front man for the group GangStarr. The group produced such memorable hits as “Jazzmatazz” volume 1,2,3 and 4, “Words I Manifest", “Mass Appeal” and “Jazz Thing” from the “Mo Betta Blues” sound track. Known as one of the top lyricists in hip-hop of all time, Guru worked with the some of the greatest artists in the music industry on several projects, proving his musical skill and critically acclaimed style will leave a big lyrical hole in the fabric of Hip-hop to be sure. Guru has a non-profit organization called “Each One Counts” that is dedicated to helping and providing resources for abused and disadvantaged children around the world. Please visit eachonecounts.org for more information and how you can help.
Guru, a TRUE HIP-HOP LEGEND!
Rest in Peace!!!
From the Staff of WhyBlueMatters.com
Monday, April 19, 2010
WBM Features: Hillz Music
There's something about passion that can't and possibly won't ever stop the mentally and emotionally motivated. Mind you, there may be setbacks, disappointments and hindrances along the way, but for one reason or another these are the catalysts continue to propel us forward toward the very things we want.
Take the man behind Hillz Music for example. Ever since he was young, music, especially hip hop was something that he couldn't help but be drawn to. It was around him, he learned from it, he lived by it and was mentored by some of the best. The culmination of all these experiences coupled with the vision Hillz Music had for himself brings him to where he is today--overcoming adversity and all. There's not a thing he can't nor a thing he won't do for music, better yet for his family.
Get an up close and personal look at the man behind Hillz Music as he shares his beginnings and what the future has in store with Why Blue Matters.
So tell me a little bit about yourself:
Hillz Music: Well I was born and raised in Philly where I really got caught up in hip hop. When I became a teen we ( my mother and I) moved to Orlando Fl. Around 14 I started rappin, hangin out with older dudes that were goin to the studio, By 16, I was cool with one of the original promoters in the city and started going to all the shows coming down. Back then dj nasty, dj kahaled, & dj caesar all dj`d together as a team called hit men dj`s and I got to be around them at a early age. From there my love for the music just took off. By the time I was 19 I moved to Atl to explore my options in music and see what was out there. A few years later I moved back to Orlando and really started hitting the studio heavy. Within a couple years a friend of mine Godzillest became a instructor at Full Sail and by chance met one of Diddy`s Hit Men producers Young Lord, we chopped it up and came to a agreement that I would fly to N.Y. and record 5/6 songs with him...
Realizing that a company deal would bring more control and money to the table I started hustlin so I could take my team with me and invest in them as well. It`s crazy now but around 2grand shy of my goal I got set up, did a little time and came home to a mother that had stage 3 cancer and a family with kids that needed me. I`ve been grinding this music ever since. Through a friend and artist Viper I was re introduced to some industry people and took off.
Who is Hillz Music?
Hillz Music: Hillz is not your average artist, I do this because I have a family's legacy riding on me to make it. Both my brothers died at a early age and I`m whats left to be successful for us all. I am proud to be married and have kids that i love and I see no reason to hide them. I rap about things I really lived, I grind for more then myself, I always have and always will.
Interest(s)?
Hillz Music: Outside of music, I`m a basketball (Cavs) and football (Eagles) nut. I also love history and reading books weather they`re business, black history or whatever...
How long have you been involved with music?
Hillz Music: Over ten years.
Do you play any instruments?
Hillz Music: Nope. lol, When I was yunger I had a drum machine and a keyboard that I used to make beats, then when I met Godzillest I realized he was alot faster then I was so I sold my equipment and focused on business and writing.
How important is innovation to you?
Hillz Music: Innovation whether it`s on the business or artistic side is very much needed. The game has become watered down. Sales are down for a lot of reasons, contracts are either 360 deals or you have to bring a huge projects to the table. So being able to be a forward thinker is needed if your going to set your self up for success.
What does success mean to you?
Hillz Music: Success means the world to me. I`m driven by ghosts and un fulfilled legacies of my brothers, and the expectations of my family to be successful.
What inspires and motivates you?
Hillz Music: The ability to fulfill my mothers dreams for me, the need to provide for more then just my self and the desire to help and lead others.
What's in your iPod?
Hillz Music: Jay Z, Jeezy, T.I., Kanye, Freeway, Ace Hood, Bali, Bun B, Pac, OutKast a lil Wayne & Ross and some R&B.
Who would you like to collaborate with?
Hillz Music: JAY, Jeezy, and T.I. would do it...
Current projects?
Hillz Music: Well we`re working with Konvict now on a couple of their groups, also doing something with one of DTP`s new groups. Also be on the look out for that Dj Elamentz & Dj Drama mixtape coming soon!!
Where do you see yourself 5 years from now?
Hillz Music: Running a company with my partners Godzillest, Billy D. and our LifeLine fam. Having about 8-10 acts, establishing our producers/Artists The Colleagues, MasterMind Beat Boyz, Hazel, RayJean Grey, Stereo Hogzz and jet setting....
Biggest accomplishment?
Hillz Music: It`s a tie... 1st time a signed artist asked me to jump on a rec. (shout out to Maybach Music & Cash Chris!) and getting my 1st placement for one of my producers.
What type of impact would you like to leave with your music?
Hillz Music: To establish and build a company that can rival the success of early DefJam.
Any advice for those looking to pursue their goals and dreams?
Hillz Music: To never give up, when you hit a wall, stop and analyze the situation. Chances are when you put your self last for a moment you can open doors and create relationships that last a lifetime.
For More On Hillz Music:
HILLZMUSIC ft. BALI "HOOD CERTIFIED" prod by MasterMind Beat Boyz http://www.zshare.net/audio/645516009c4b4b66/
HILLZMUSIC ft. Konvict Muziks RAY LAVENDER "GET MONEY" prod by GodzIllest http://twiturm.com/fy7wa
HILLZMUSIC "WELCOME 2 W.50" prod by DON CHEEGRO & DIRTY HARRY http://twiturm.com/gbbg9
BREAKUP 101: LET'S STEP IT UP LADIES
BREAKUP 101:
RID YOURSELF OF HIS BELONGINGS:
Now ladies, I can't lie, I have a nice collection of all my ex's belongings. I like to call it "garments on memory lane." They vary from jewelry, clothes, and even love notes (and hate notes lol), but you must leave these possesions somewhere you can't see them and look at them every 5 seconds. Give them to someone to hold or put it somewhere that you dont look at everyday. Better yet, throw it out if you can manage it!, but no matter what leave the trash in the past.
DELETE ANY SOURCE OF CONTACT:
Now this rule will only apply and affectively work if you really want to get rid of this guy. In your mind when
you first break up with someone I find it very hard not to want to call and just say hey, or maybe even start an argument just to talk to him, or the "creme de la creme" call and hang up..ugh!! that is the worst. So if he has a facebook, number, aim, bbm, etc; delete it all!!..dont waste another minute, you have to disperse all mental notion of him ever being alive lol.
DO SOMETHING CRAZY!:
Put on that feminine, women = power song and just sing your broken heart out. Cry, yell, and shout, as much as you can, but dont turn that song off. Keep it on repeat and let the emotions run rampid. You have a right to express your feelings. If you want to be even more bold, do it with some trusted girlfriends. not the ones that are going to make you feel like running back to the man that just dumped you, but the ones that are going to hold you down and have your back through the storm. I even have some songs for you that will release the craziness going on:
1. THE LYING MAN- I Just Want It To Be Over: Keysha Cole
2.THE CHEATING MAN- Not Gonna Cry: Mary J Blige
(more than a one time cheating man..i prefer I Hate You So Much Right Now: Kelis)
3. THE UNAPPRECIATIVE MAN- Superwoman: Karen White
4. THE LAZY MAN- Rain On Me: Ashanti
5. HE DUMPED YOU MAN- I Remember: Keysha Cole
(if it was a mega dumping fest,i suggest How To Sleep With a Broken Heart- Alicia Keys)
There are many more songs out there that will help you mend your broken heart, but these are personally my favorite and have helped me through the rough times. Especially Ms. Amy Winehouse!, nobody has had heartbreak like that woman!
GET A NEW ATTITUDE:
At this point you need to regroup. you are all cried out and now your just pissed off. wondering if hes thinking about you? maybe, maybe not, BUT THAT DOESNT MATTER!!. You need to do some
reinvention, go get your hair done, mani's and pedi's, do some shopping, go see a movie, have a nice lunch with a girl friend. Just be easy! You dont need to sit in front of the television watching chick flicks, eating popcorn with hot sauce lol and 13g of fat ice cream. You dont need to get fat and be more depressed. You need to get up and get out of the house. I know you dont want to, but it has to be done for yourself.
MENTAL RENEWAL STAGE:
Ok, so most woman forget this stage, that's why there are so many "MAN HATING WOMAN". You need
this time to clear your mind. Find the lesson and learn from it. Take some time to yourself and reflect on all that has happened. What you can grow from and what you need to leave on that dusty road called the past. Take
a hot bath and relax, get it through your mind that your not alone, plenty woman have gone through it and have bounced back lovely as ever. **Also DRILL into your head, ALL MEN ARE NOT THE SAME**. My mother always used to tell me "baby girl, you have to kiss alot of frog to get to prince charming." Relationships are based on what you can and can not, will and will not except. At this time, find out what you will and can except and what you won't. it will save alot of issue and drama next time.
DONT BE AFRAID TO STEP OUT, BUT TAKE IT SLOW:
As a woman, there are not alot of things you can't have. Living in the times that we do, we are allowed alot more than our parents and grandparents were. So take advantage, go out, do something for yourself, have a date or two, do some soul searching. But PLEASE!!!..GO SLOW!..there is no rush, you dont have to jump into another relationship. Its like having a wound that just healed and then reopening it. Not only does it hurt, but...
it's new again. Similar to your feelings. you don't want to pour your soul to some new douche bag who doesnt even know your last name. You need to give yourself sometimes to be clear minded and drama free. No one likes baggage ladies and no man wants to be put into the category or reminded every ten minutes that your ex did this and that. Its a definite buzz kill and a drag.
So here we are, I have showed you the way ladies, be mindful that it's not the end of the world. Yes he may have been your everything, but you will have others that are your everything as well. I hate these myths that say you only get one or maybe two true loves if your lucky. That's such bullshit!!..I'm sorry,but there are billions of ppl on this planet (maybe more,because you know everybody doesnt do their census lol)..do you really think you'll only have two loves? NO WAY!!...true love will find you, give it time ladies, just give it time.
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